Bereavement is by far one of the most difficult experiences a person has to go through. But, while it can be incredibly difficult to cope with, it’s also a universal reality that practically all of us has to deal with through different periods of life. Whether mourning a spouse, family member or close friend, there will inevitably be a deep sense of loss and sadness, but there are also ways we can make the process easier for ourselves or people we know suffering with bereavement.
Firstly, it’s important to understand that everyone reacts to the loss of a close one differently. Depending on the circumstances and your personality, you may feel shocked, frightened or even angry. Some people report feeling a strange kind of numbness, which is common and often a natural coping mechanism for dealing with bereavement over time, when the mind is ready to do so.
Each of these emotions and reactions is valid, and it’s important not to assign yourself any blame. That said, anger in particular may manifest itself in unsafe ways, and there’s also the potential for sadness to become overwhelming. If you’re concerned that your emotions may be out of control, or notice unsafe behaviour among those you know, heading to your GP or contacting agencies such as Cruse Bereavement Care, The Bereavement Trust or Samaritans is a positive first step in getting some help in dealing with these feelings.
Although it always seems impossible to believe, time truly is an excellent healer, and once the initial shock and practical considerations are dealt with, looking ahead to the long term is important. Remaining social when you feel ready and reaching out to those close to you, or getting professional advice, is a great way to help ease some of the suffering you may feel.
Bereaved families experience a great sense of peace when they arrive at the privately owned Great Glen Crematorium. This beautiful facility lies on the outskirts of Leicester, yet with 30 acres of well kept grounds it has the tranquillity of a truly rural setting, providing comfort and calm to those saying their goodbyes.
Great Glen Crematorium was designed to the highest modern standards when it opened in March 2017 and caring staff members offer exemplary professional care to the bereaved. The welcoming chapel is non-denominational, suitable for ceremonies for people of all faiths and none. There is seating for 100, ample standing room and proceedings can be relayed outside on speakers for larger gatherings.
A full hour is allocated for each service – additional time can be booked if wished – and each one is arranged uniquely and personalised with people’s own choice of readings, music and special touches. Photographs can be electronically displayed and services can even be webcast to people unable to attend in person.
The Gardens of Remembrance blend perfectly with the surrounding countryside and there are numerous ways for people to be commemorated. Ashes can be scattered or buried and memorials range from plaques to specially chosen trees.
Manager Helen Bozon says: “We are privileged to help families commemorate their loved ones however they feel appropriate.”
A friendly, family run funeral directing service, Charlotte Graham & Daughters, has opened a second office to help people gain peace of mind by choosing their end of life arrangements.
Established more than five years ago, this well respected independent company has gained an excellent reputation for arranging both traditional and natural burial funerals, assisting bereaved families to celebrate the lives of their loved ones and incorporating their wishes and preferences into the proceedings.
Their website includes many tributes from clients giving thanks for the sensitivity, dignity and reassurance given as customers paid their respects and said their goodbyes.
Now the company has opened an additional office in Stoney Stanton where people can visit to make plans for their own funerals and arrange pre-payment funeral plans so that they know they will be leaving everything as stress-free as possible for their families.
“When someone dies a lot of families don’t know if they wanted cremation or burial, because it was never discussed,” says Charlotte, “And that can cause quite a bit of heartache. This service allows people to record what they want to happen and a pre-payment plan lets clients know that when they pass away they will not be leaving a financial burden behind for their family.”